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You Asked About: Track Car Gps

William asks…

how do i track my car with gps device installed?

My car has a GPS Tracking device already installed how do i track the car on the internet?

Chas answers:

” My car has a GPS Tracking device already installed how do i track the car on the Internet?”

The average GPS receiver does not have a transmitter and will not allow you to track your truck or car so you will need a real GPS tracking device.

Some vehicle have OnStar which can find the location of your vehicle and some use car dealers may install tracking device to keep track of their property till it it paid off.

It really depends on what type of tracking device you have purchased. Some GPS tracking device only record where the vehicle has been and you have to remove the tracking device to retrieve the route information. There are other GPS tracking device that uses GPRS and you can track it almost real time on the Internet, about every 2 minutes or so.
There are also GPS devices that uses both GPRS and WiFi like the DASH navigation system.

There are device like TomTom that you can sign up with TomTom Plus service and track your friends that have TomTom Devices.

There are AVL fleet tracking systems that you can use to track your GPS unit on the internet also.

You can find out more by viewing these links

Good Luck

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You Asked About: Signs Of My Wife Having An Affair

Maria asks…

Wife is using kids to her advantage. I can’t walk out on my kids. I don’t want them to have separated parents

Married 4 about 6 years now. She’s had 1 affair on me. We worked it out but it created a serious jealoulsy problem 4 me. So after about a year, she took all she could take. I questioned her all the time, looked through her phone ect…So she decided she was going to leave me, but never quite would commit 2 it, she would get a place, make an appointment to sign 4 it, then she’d say she was scared 2 leave cause we were best friends. She felt like she lost her feelings 4 me. So, I changed, I fixed the jealousy problem, I have done very well. But still, She shows me VERY little attention, sex is RARE, never unless I start it. She is on her phone with her girlfriends or on the PC most of the time from when she gets home till bed. If I address the fact that she is on them all the time….she snaps. Gives me the whole “this is my time” and “it’s not hurting anything.” And she’s a bitch. “I get the whole u pay me 2 much Attention.” I love her but this shit gets OLD. Thoughts??
We have 2 kids 6 yr old girl and a 5 yr old boy. She knows I am crazy over them and knows that my #1 priority in life is to have a family that’s together and healthy and happy. It’s like I would sacrafice my happiness for them. But god it just gets old not getting any attention or feeling wanted. I mean she tells me she loves me and hugs and kisses on me a little, but it’s kind of like it doesn’t really make that big of a difference if i am around or not. Like I would love to do stuff with her, go places , concerts ect…she would a lot of the times rather go with her friends. I have friends, but I would rather go with her. I definitely don’t consider myself overboard, overcrowding her or smothering her, at all. But she just seems to feel like I show her too much attention or am too nice and loving! What the hell is wrong with her?

Chas answers:

Hi there. First off, sorry you are going through a difficult situation. Hang in there. It will pass and your attitude determines how you will get through it…for the better or for the worst. It’s all in how YOU approach it.

Now, on to your situation. Figure out why your wife HAD the affair to begin with. If it was something she felt she wasn’t getting from you and you resolved those issues, move on. You have already moved past your jealousy issues. Great job! That is one extremely difficult thing to do, and you were able to overcome! I’m proud of you, and you should be as well.

Your wife seems to be feeling smothered. Whether YOU think you are smothering her or not is not the issue. That is what SHE is feeling.

You have a right to want love and affection from your wife. That should be freely given, not withheld just to punish you. She is in the wrong for this. Everyone needs love and affection, whether it is from their spouse or someone else. Keep in mind, me saying this does NOT mean that a spouse should be getting in on with someone else. What I am saying is, the amount of love and affection (hugs, sharing thoughts and feelings, closeness etc. With personal boundaries) varies between person to person.

Your wife is obviously confused. This is verified by her actions of being able to commit being away from you. She does NOT WANT to be away from you, but is having trouble expressing her set of boundaries to you. Again, everyone has their OWN boundaries. She needs to learn how to communicate these to you. If she feels like she can’t, she will act upon that belief. She is seeking support for her feelings from her friends and temporary mental sanity from being on the computer. This is not your fault, as there is no blame here. This is YOUR problem that you would like to be spending time with her, and your way of communicating this to her is coming out through negative emotions (nagging, complaining, etc.) When a person feels that their boundaries are being violated (even if and when they can’t communicate them effectively) they will protect their boundaries. Sometimes this is done through withdrawal of affection, sex, etc. She feels you do not respect her boundaries, so she is not going to cross them to please you. Get what I am saying? It is kind of confusing, but keep an open mind.

YOUR boundaries of not wanting to be bitched at and wanting her love and affection need to be communicated to her healthily. It is obvious this is not being done, hence your current circumstance.

Perhaps going to counseling or having someone else who is able to be impartial can help the two of you learn to effectively communicate your boundaries and needs to one another. Right now you are BOTH feeling unheard and disrespected. It does NOT need to be that way.

It is not in your power or control to determine what is best for her. Only in your power to determine what is best for you. You then let her know in a calm, respectful manner the needs that you have, and ask her if she is able to meet these needs. She needs to do the same for you.

Too many married couples believe that since they have been together for so long that their partner has the ability to read their mind. Very incorrect way of thinking. Only the individual knows what is in their head. Actions can contradict this and lead to confusion. This is where effective communication is key. You as an individual can determine what comes out of your mouth in what way. When you talk purely out of emotion, actual thoughts get misconstrued by the feelings that come out by a reaction to the emotions. Listen to WHAT is being said, not HOW.

You two ARE best friends. Partners. You are just having difficulty because of hurt FEELINGS on both parts communicating your needs. Set the feelings aside and address your needs. She cannot MAKE you happy and you cannot make her happy. Happiness comes from within. Do not rely on others to determine your moods or self worth. Rely on what is inside YOU.

Good luck to you and I hope this helps. Please share this with her, and if you would like to e-mail me privately, I am more than happy to explain things more to you.

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You Asked About: My Girlfriend Is Having An Affair

Donald asks…

is my girlfriend having an affair with her lady friend?

my girlfriend has a girl who is her her the car for free to stay with.that girl told my girlfriend that she has good boops,she even touch them.she also told my girlfriend she has good butts.she has been telling my girlfriend this continuously and even touching them.they text alot and when i ask my girlfriend she is so my girl cheating?is it bad if i feel hurt by whats going on?

Chas answers:

Well, personally to me, it does sound like something might be going on. It could just be that they’re good friends and do it in a non-sexual matter, but I don’t know. You should tell her how you feel and no it’s not bad if you feel hurt. If something is bothering one of you, you need to really talk about it :) It might be nothing, but it might also be that she could be cheating on you with her. If you trust what she says to you, then fine. But, if you don’t think she’s being honest with you, I don’t see why you should stay with her. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone you don’t trust, it’s not healthy and will just cause problems. Btw, it’s not true when someone says that if you are in a relationship with someone you like and that girl is flirting/kissing another girl that it’s not cheating because it still is, no matter the sex. Not everyone thinks flirting is cheating but I personally do.I don’t see why you’d flirt with someone if you love the person you have :P Some guys are into their girls being with another girl but it all depends on the person/relationship. But yeah, she could just be defensive also because of the fact that she’s not in any way attracted to her friend and doesn’t see why you’d think that, just let her know how you feel and how you feel about her and why you think there’s something going on :)

Good luck :)

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You Asked About: What To Do When You Find Out Your Husband Is Having An Affair

John asks…

What happens when you find out your husbands had an emotional affair.?

Last night on new years eve at 10pm. I recieved a phone call from the spouse of one of my husbands co-workers. He sent me copies of emails between them. He told her he loved her and hated being with me etc etc…. When I confronted him about it he lied and then lied some more. Now I dont know what to do. He’s put a lot of the blame on me, but I havent done anything. He tells me he hasnt slept with this woman, but then one of the emails said that He couldnt stand my touch and couldnt wait to be with her. So what now?

Chas answers:

First…it seems like a very odd time for the spouse of your husband’s co-worker to be contacting you. Also, how did they get their hands on the email? I would ask some serious questions about the motivation of this party in it.

After that, assuming your husband has had an emotional affair, surely you must have felt things have been different in the marriage between you two lately. How has the communication been between you? Are there other outside troubles going on between you and your husband? Please understand…I’m not blaming you, a marriage is a union between two people. Therefore those lines of communication must always be kept open and used. My guess is there is something lacking in your marriage for him to look outside of it to fulfill his need. You can solve this only if both of you want to. If he says he’s not interested in working on his marriage with you, then it’s time to call it quits and get out. But, make every effort possible to fix what’s wrong between you first. If you don’t, years down the road, you’ll always ask yourself if you did everything you could.

I understand your situation…I had an emotional affair and choose to stop it. Nothing physical happened. But when I look back on it, I realized that my marriage was lacking intimacy and communication. I found those in this other person. I love my wife and want to make it work. Therefore, I put aside the feelings I was experiencing for this other woman and focused on my marriage. Things have been better. But a key difference is that I wanted to make it work. Sounds like your guy doesn’t. Good luck.

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You Asked About: Would My Wife Have An Affair

Steven asks…

What would cause my wife to have an affair ?

I dont want her to know that I want her to , but I would get a kick out of it !!!

Chas answers:

She is not going to know if u dont tell her… Shes not a mind reader….. Tell her about ur fantacy or fetish and see wat she wants to do with it..

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You Asked About: What To Do If You Suspect Your Wife Is Having An Affair

Chris asks…

What would you do if you thought or suspected your boss was attracted to you– on your new job?

I just started working for a great company two weeks ago. And I’m really excited about my new job — However my boss who btw is really handsome, Is a little hard to read. I suspect that he’s attracted to me by the way he looks at me. If I don’t react to his subtle suggestive behavior – will he fire me?
Help: What do you suppose I do…I really like my new job, and don’t want to jeopardize it?
Should I tell him I am attracted to him too, but would never pursue this type of relationship at work. Or flirt or come on time on the job. I am really not that type of person. Besides he’s married with children. I am not married and do not have children, but would never even consider having an affair with my boss.
Every time I walk into his office I notice the beautiful pictures of his wife; but I can’t look at them…it just makes me feel really bad. One night working late in the office my boss — while no other employees were around – My boss walks slowly pass my desk and groans sexually like he’s was getting off!

Is this just all in my head, or is this some type of weird office attraction?
Should I give it a few more weeks to decide if it’s really an attraction, because maybe he was just tired because it was late???

Or maybe he just looks at everyone the way he looks at me like he’s having some type of deep thought? Is it I who is crazy or what’s really going on here?

Chas answers:

A wealthy man sees a very attractive woman at a party and asks her if she will have sex with him for a million dollars.

She agrees.

He then asks her if she will have sex with him for twenty-five dollars.

She becomes indignant, slaps his face and asks, “What do think I am?”

He replies,”We’ve already established that, we’re negotiating the price!”

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