Getting it on in Cyber Space. Is it cheating when she’s not in the room?

Chas — Wed, 10 Oct 2007 07:12:47 +0000

Some would say that cheating online isn’t really cheating – if you never meet the other person in the ‘real’ world it’s just a fantasy right? Not in the Cheat Catcher’s experience – look what happened when we ventured into a ‘virtual’ world of pole dancers (coming up later in this post)

Could that argument be extended to phone sex or online strip shows? Of course it could, but that doesn’t mean that this sort of ‘playing’ is acceptable to everyone.

The definition of cheating is up to every individual in a relationship – you decide. It’s one thing fantasizing and using the web to do that but when it breaks out into the real or ‘cyber’ world then that’s cheating plain and simple and most divorce courts would agree.

Maybe couples should have a set of rules that they both subscribe to: is this OK? How about this? “Hi Sweetie, would it be OK if I have online sex in a cyber world with total strangers?” Cripes! Try bringing that one up over dinner!

Here is our first foray into the world of cybersex…..
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A friend recently joined an online alternative cyber world called ‘Second Life’ – maybe you’ve heard of it – it is quite incredible – an online world where you can look and dress how you want (even change sex if you choose), buy a house (or a private island!) fill it with stuff and interact with hundreds of thousands of other people. Create objects to buy and sell (some people actually make a real living doing this as the local currency can be converted into real world cash).
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I signed up for a free account to check it out, (but just as a tourist!) and all I can say is WOW!
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Don’t get me wrong it’s a fantastic place full of fun and wonder but, just like the real world, there’s a sleazy element if that’s what you are after and, purely for research purposes, I found myself in the Heaven Or Hell Club. Before I entered I saw a large Billboard outside warning me not to be taken in by any ‘Escorts’ hanging around outside the club as they were not official ‘Heaven or Hell’ hostesses and I might get ripped off!

I signed up as a member, was approached by a few ‘ladies’ asking that I buy them a drink, tip them for a pole dance and was then approached by another offering more than a dance! I was interacting with real people who, like me, inhabit this surreal world. Veeeery weird!

You can have cartoon like sex in Second Life ( but this ain’t Minnie Mouse or Jessica Rabbit, I’m talking ‘full-on’ genetically enhanced ‘rumpy pumpy!) and even buy real world ‘attachments’ that are strapped on or inserted that your online partner can activate - is your mind boggling as much as mine?

While being incredibly impressed with the technology the cartoon flirting was not for me but I have to say I can understand how someone could find themselves spending a lot of their free time, and money, here. If they’re single that’s fine, but if they’re in a relationship…..?

Later that evening I received an e-mail:

> GENTLEMEN!!
> LINGERIE EVENT!! STARRING THE LADIES OF HEAVEN or HELL!! ON MAY 6!! At
> HoH!! LADIES IN LINGERIE! SEXY!! PROVOCATIVE!! OUTRAGEOUS!! The MOST
> BEAUTIFUL LADIES IN SL WILL STRUT THEIR STUFF FOR YOU!! IN LACY
> BRA’S,PANTIES, TEDDIES, THIGH HIGHS! CORSETS!… IF YOU LIKE FROSTING ON
> YOUR CAKE….AND THE PACKAGE SWEETLY WRAPPED DONT MISS THIS ONE!!
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> WE’LL SEE YOU THERE!!
> HUGZ-N-KISSES!!

Obviously friendships are struck and ‘relationships’ started that’s what it’s all about – but how far can those relationships go. It occurred to me that a couple could get married and set up house – a sort of cyber bigamy!

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While there are various spy products that can be attached to a computer either physically or by installing a program I have come across one that you can install on another computer (say a business laptop) via an attachment sent in an e-mail. Then from your computer you can monitor everything that’s happening on that other PC – just be prepared to be shocked if your partner is up to no good online in Second Life!

With SniperSpy you can record chat conversations, see web sites visited, keystrokes typed, and more, including screenshots of emails, dating sites, video conversations etc. You can easily learn the truth about what they are doing online within 24 hours.

Here’s a postscript to this post – received this in my e-mail box today (4 days after posting the above):

THIS E-MAIL FROM SECOND LIFE: [8:47] Temporal Mitra: You have been ejected from ‘Heaven or Hell Club’ by Temporal Mitra.

Yep that’s right, I’ve been barred from the club! Guess they didn’t like this post much eh? Now I’ve been barred, banned and ejected from more than a few places in my misguided youth but in cyberspace? Peerlease!!!!

» Getting it on in Cyber Space. Is it cheating when she’s not in the room?

Getting it on in Cyber Space. Is it cheating when she’s not in the room?