Author Archive for Chas

Surviving infidelity website/forums :)?

Hmm, now I joined over a year ago and i posted a joke, I thought it was funny… but it was on the betrayed spouse forums so yeah not a good idea…the mods slaughtered me plus half of the bs’s

And I try and try and try to make an account… nope doesnt let me and I’m not blocked from there anymore, and from different computers too, I just want to give advice, I have helped my friends dealing with this and they turned out to thank me and feel better about themselves. But I can’t join :(, any suggestions?
No ready… I like that one… it’s funny.. you should read it, some posts are hilarious… the general ones.. dont go into bs or you’ll start crying.. i did :(

what do these lyrics to this song mean? i dont get it?

The Quiet Screaming by The Legion of Doom

I’m missing your bed
I never sleep
Avoiding the spots where we’d have to speak,
And this bottle of beast
Is taking me home
I’m cuddling close
To blankets and sheets
But you’re not alone, and you’re not discreet
Make sure I know who’s taking you home.

I’m reading your note over again
And there’s not a word that I comprehend,
Except when you signed it
I will love you always and forever

I’m missing your laugh
How did it break?
And when did your eyes begin to look fake?
I hope you’re as happy as you’re pretending.

I’m cuddling close
To blankets and sheets
and I am alone
In my defeat I wish I knew you were safely at home

I’m missing your bed
I never sleep
Avoiding the spots where we’d have to speak,
And this bottle of beast is taking me home.

We saw the western coast
I saw the hospital
Nursed the shoreline like a wound
Reports of lover’s tryst
Were neither clear nor descript
We kept it safe and slow
The quiet things that no one ever knows

So keep the blood in your head
And keep your feet on the ground
Today’s the day it gets tired
Today’s the day we drop down
Gave up my body and bed
All for an empty hotel
Wasting words on lower cases and capitals

Well as for now I’m gonna hear the saddest songs
And sit alone and wonder
How you’re making out
but as for me, I wish that I was anywhere, with anyone
Making out.

I’m missing your laugh
How did it break?
And when did your eyes begin to look fake?
I hope you’re as happy as you’re pretending.

I’m missing your bed
I never sleep
Avoiding the spots where we’d have to speak,
And this bottle of beast is taking me home.

and iiii….

So keep the blood in your head
And keep your feet on the ground
Today’s the day it gets tired
Today’s the day we drop down
Gave up my body and bed
All for an empty hotel
Wasting words on lower cases and capitals

So keep the blood in your head
And keep your feet on the ground
Today’s the day it gets tired
Today’s the day we drop down
Gave up my body and bed
All for an empty hotel
Wasting words on lower cases and capitals

(Your hair, it’s everywhere.
Screaming infidelities
And taking its wear.)

So keep the blood in your head
And keep your feet on the ground
Today’s the day it gets tired
Today’s the day we drop down
Gave up my body and bed
All for an empty hotel
Wasting words on lower cases and capitals

what are some signs for boy and girl babies?

i have a lot of cramping im my legs thay swell and are red in some parts….my face swells also and im FAT are these signs boy or girl

What was the drug situation at ur high school?

How easy was it for you to score drugs? did any of your friends do it? did it eveer get out of control? did u witness any drug dealings? if u wanted drugs, could you get it within the school? what type of drugs were at your school? how did the adminstration handle it?

I can answer yes to all of these questions when it comes to my school, my school is up into heroine and its scary seeing kids uve known since grade school get f’d up like that

Do you have any tips on how I can catch my girlfriend cheating?

I know she is cheating, for sure, I just need some tips on how to get her to confess it?

Is my wife selfish? Mid-life crisis?

My wife and I have been married for almost 15 years. We have had our fair share of bumps along the way, which until now, I thought we got though it together.

The gist of it is for the first 11-12 years, I worked a lot and in hind sight neglected my family for my job. I thought I was doing the right thing, by furthering my self professionally so I could provide for my family, but I guess not. My wife never really said much about it. We had a few discussion/arguments at first, but then they subsided. I assumed everything was ok. Turns out she just stopped talking about it but the feelings never went away. She has always had trouble communicating with me which I think is due to a childhood trauma she experienced.

Over the years, she has pushed herself professionally as well, she went from waiting tables when we married to selling real estate, to going back to school and becoming a systems analyst for a large investment firm. About 2 years ago, she took a new job and has jumped in with both feet, I don’t blame her for that, I have done the same. The first year she would come home from work and work until 11-12 in the evening. She is not doing that so much anymore, however she recently started going to the gym (at her work) at 4am and most nights during the week from 5-7, coming home about 8pm. She has always battled with her weight and self image and I want her to be healthy and happy, but I am miserable now. Poetic justice, I guess!!! To top things off, a few weeks ago she told me that she doesn’t know if “this” is what she wants. This meaning our marriage. We are in our mid-30′s and have never been alone, started dating at 16 off and on, we had a child at 19 and married at 21. The thought of it for me is frightening, for her, she’s says she is ok with it. I can understand this to some degree, but we made a commitment to each other. I know someone will say it, so I will bring it up here. I considered that she might be having an affair, and that could very well be the case. If it is, I think I would be surprised, that is not like her. She has never trusted my fidelity and always figured I would cheat on her or leave her. Again, I think this stems from her childhood trauma. Trust and abandonment issues.

There are obviously a lot of details that I have left out, but is it normal for a woman who had a child and was married at a young age to feel like there is something she is missing in like? Is this a mid-life crisis and she will likely come to her senses, or is this the beginning of the end and I’m blinded by my love and commitment to her?

I want things to work out between us, but I am in my own personal hell right now and feel myself drifting into a depression. We have started marriage counseling and I have decided that I need to see a therapist on my own to learn how to cope with this situation. We don’t even act like a married couple anymore, it is like having a roommate. I feel I am making things worse every time I open my mouth. Every day I feel a pit in my stomach, a lump in my throat and feel like I could cry at the drop of a hat (and sometimes do). My moods changes by the minute/hour, on moment I want to make things work between us and want to do whatever it takes, the next I just want her out of my life so I can begin to heal and move on. these feelings come out in my words and body language as I am not as good as her at keeping my feelings to myself.

As much as I want to save my marriage, ultimately I know I have to do what is best for me, even if that is helping her make up her mind. I don’t want things to get worse and if we do divorce, I still want her to be part of my life and not become enemies like my parents were, after all we have a child together and I don’t want to make things any worse than they will be for him.