How do I save my marriage, when she doesnt seem interested in saving it?

Technically we are not married but have been in a committed relationship with a woman that I am madly in love with for just over ten years. We have two children ages 8, a girl and 6 a boy. We are both awesome parents. About 4 weeks ago I felt as though she was distancing herself from me, initially I had thought she might be having an affair. When I questioned her about it she became really upset but assured me there was no affair. I have always had a very good ability to tell when shes not being completely truthful or forthcoming. I believed her 100% and we made love over the next couple weeks that was as good as or better than it had ever been. Then she went on a trip out of the state to the town where she grew up. During her trip I became obsessed with the possibility that she may never come back. She seemed to ignore me when I would text and call and so thoughts of infidelity swirled around in my head again. On the last day of her trip we had a nice heart to heart in which she said I needed to stop acting weird. That I was her man and she wasn’t going anywhere. I felt relieved and couldn’t wait to see her when she got back. She got back, more welcome home lovemaking and all seemed right with the world. Two days later we were engaged in a conversation about our future wedding plans. We had to make a decision on deposits and what not. We decided not to give deposits and delay the day of our wedding. It was okay but it made me press her with the events of the last few weeks still strong in my mind I asked if we were making these decisions because we were being fiscally responsible or was there something else. I could tell by the look on her face she was holding something back. So I pressed again. “Are we okay?” is what I asked. She said “I don’t feel the same.”. “about what?” I asked. “About you” was her response. She said that she isn’t happy here and wants to move back to where she grew up. The long and the short of it is that she says she no longer loves me. She says that she loves who I am and as the dad to our kids but not as a mate or companion anymore. Devastated is the only word I can use to respond to the emotions I feel. Its been 6 days since she told me this and she had agreed to go to couples counseling. SCORE! It really gave me some hope and even though I had been sharing the same bed with her and really conducting our life as if nothing had happened, I have been an emotional wreck. My behaviors are erratic. One minute Im laughing and joking with her the next Im sobbing like a baby. So I had pretty much put my hope into counseling. She has a job that has amazing benefits and to her she is able to get 8 hour long sessions of counseling. So we had inquired about the sessions and out of the blue she told me yesterday that she is going to go to a session by herself first and then together. So now because of my erratic behavior I immediately begin to think that she wants to talk about me without me hearing it or wants to tell the therapist that she doesn’t really want to go to counseling and that shes just there to appease me. If I were in a rational state of mind I might actually be able to hold on to the idea that she may just be having a mid-life crisis and is directing her frustrations towards me, as has been suggested by friends. So I don’t know what to do. I sleep 3 hours a night if Im lucky, I haven’t eaten one piece of food in six days, I stopped smoking. I constantly have to bring our situation with her and I know without a doubt she is becoming increasingly frustrated with all my behaviors. I love her completely and with all my heart and would be willing to do anything to change her mind. I commend anyone getting through all this let alone actually leaving me an answer. Those of you that do however, I thank you.

Surviving infidelity website/forums :)?

Hmm, now I joined over a year ago and i posted a joke, I thought it was funny… but it was on the betrayed spouse forums so yeah not a good idea…the mods slaughtered me plus half of the bs’s

And I try and try and try to make an account… nope doesnt let me and I’m not blocked from there anymore, and from different computers too, I just want to give advice, I have helped my friends dealing with this and they turned out to thank me and feel better about themselves. But I can’t join :(, any suggestions?
No ready… I like that one… it’s funny.. you should read it, some posts are hilarious… the general ones.. dont go into bs or you’ll start crying.. i did :(

what do these lyrics to this song mean? i dont get it?

The Quiet Screaming by The Legion of Doom

I’m missing your bed
I never sleep
Avoiding the spots where we’d have to speak,
And this bottle of beast
Is taking me home
I’m cuddling close
To blankets and sheets
But you’re not alone, and you’re not discreet
Make sure I know who’s taking you home.

I’m reading your note over again
And there’s not a word that I comprehend,
Except when you signed it
I will love you always and forever

I’m missing your laugh
How did it break?
And when did your eyes begin to look fake?
I hope you’re as happy as you’re pretending.

I’m cuddling close
To blankets and sheets
and I am alone
In my defeat I wish I knew you were safely at home

I’m missing your bed
I never sleep
Avoiding the spots where we’d have to speak,
And this bottle of beast is taking me home.

We saw the western coast
I saw the hospital
Nursed the shoreline like a wound
Reports of lover’s tryst
Were neither clear nor descript
We kept it safe and slow
The quiet things that no one ever knows

So keep the blood in your head
And keep your feet on the ground
Today’s the day it gets tired
Today’s the day we drop down
Gave up my body and bed
All for an empty hotel
Wasting words on lower cases and capitals

Well as for now I’m gonna hear the saddest songs
And sit alone and wonder
How you’re making out
but as for me, I wish that I was anywhere, with anyone
Making out.

I’m missing your laugh
How did it break?
And when did your eyes begin to look fake?
I hope you’re as happy as you’re pretending.

I’m missing your bed
I never sleep
Avoiding the spots where we’d have to speak,
And this bottle of beast is taking me home.

and iiii….

So keep the blood in your head
And keep your feet on the ground
Today’s the day it gets tired
Today’s the day we drop down
Gave up my body and bed
All for an empty hotel
Wasting words on lower cases and capitals

So keep the blood in your head
And keep your feet on the ground
Today’s the day it gets tired
Today’s the day we drop down
Gave up my body and bed
All for an empty hotel
Wasting words on lower cases and capitals

(Your hair, it’s everywhere.
Screaming infidelities
And taking its wear.)

So keep the blood in your head
And keep your feet on the ground
Today’s the day it gets tired
Today’s the day we drop down
Gave up my body and bed
All for an empty hotel
Wasting words on lower cases and capitals

what are some signs for boy and girl babies?

i have a lot of cramping im my legs thay swell and are red in some parts….my face swells also and im FAT are these signs boy or girl

What was the drug situation at ur high school?

How easy was it for you to score drugs? did any of your friends do it? did it eveer get out of control? did u witness any drug dealings? if u wanted drugs, could you get it within the school? what type of drugs were at your school? how did the adminstration handle it?

I can answer yes to all of these questions when it comes to my school, my school is up into heroine and its scary seeing kids uve known since grade school get f’d up like that

Do you have any tips on how I can catch my girlfriend cheating?

I know she is cheating, for sure, I just need some tips on how to get her to confess it?

Is my wife selfish? Mid-life crisis?

My wife and I have been married for almost 15 years. We have had our fair share of bumps along the way, which until now, I thought we got though it together.

The gist of it is for the first 11-12 years, I worked a lot and in hind sight neglected my family for my job. I thought I was doing the right thing, by furthering my self professionally so I could provide for my family, but I guess not. My wife never really said much about it. We had a few discussion/arguments at first, but then they subsided. I assumed everything was ok. Turns out she just stopped talking about it but the feelings never went away. She has always had trouble communicating with me which I think is due to a childhood trauma she experienced.

Over the years, she has pushed herself professionally as well, she went from waiting tables when we married to selling real estate, to going back to school and becoming a systems analyst for a large investment firm. About 2 years ago, she took a new job and has jumped in with both feet, I don’t blame her for that, I have done the same. The first year she would come home from work and work until 11-12 in the evening. She is not doing that so much anymore, however she recently started going to the gym (at her work) at 4am and most nights during the week from 5-7, coming home about 8pm. She has always battled with her weight and self image and I want her to be healthy and happy, but I am miserable now. Poetic justice, I guess!!! To top things off, a few weeks ago she told me that she doesn’t know if “this” is what she wants. This meaning our marriage. We are in our mid-30′s and have never been alone, started dating at 16 off and on, we had a child at 19 and married at 21. The thought of it for me is frightening, for her, she’s says she is ok with it. I can understand this to some degree, but we made a commitment to each other. I know someone will say it, so I will bring it up here. I considered that she might be having an affair, and that could very well be the case. If it is, I think I would be surprised, that is not like her. She has never trusted my fidelity and always figured I would cheat on her or leave her. Again, I think this stems from her childhood trauma. Trust and abandonment issues.

There are obviously a lot of details that I have left out, but is it normal for a woman who had a child and was married at a young age to feel like there is something she is missing in like? Is this a mid-life crisis and she will likely come to her senses, or is this the beginning of the end and I’m blinded by my love and commitment to her?

I want things to work out between us, but I am in my own personal hell right now and feel myself drifting into a depression. We have started marriage counseling and I have decided that I need to see a therapist on my own to learn how to cope with this situation. We don’t even act like a married couple anymore, it is like having a roommate. I feel I am making things worse every time I open my mouth. Every day I feel a pit in my stomach, a lump in my throat and feel like I could cry at the drop of a hat (and sometimes do). My moods changes by the minute/hour, on moment I want to make things work between us and want to do whatever it takes, the next I just want her out of my life so I can begin to heal and move on. these feelings come out in my words and body language as I am not as good as her at keeping my feelings to myself.

As much as I want to save my marriage, ultimately I know I have to do what is best for me, even if that is helping her make up her mind. I don’t want things to get worse and if we do divorce, I still want her to be part of my life and not become enemies like my parents were, after all we have a child together and I don’t want to make things any worse than they will be for him.

can sperm get engraved in your skin?

iv accidentally been showering with a sperm stained wash cloth for a week. i am using a different wash cloth now ,but is it possible that the sperm is engraved in my skin? because i smell like sperm every time i sweat and its very embarrassing.

Who is up for the roles of Green Hornet and Kato? Recommend a pair to make this movie go!!?

I think Hugh Jackman as Brit Reid. But Matt Damon would also be a fine choice as his chops as an action star have grown in his role as Jason Bourne. Another great one to consider for Brit Reid is Jason Staham. Even Thomas Jane or Daniel Craig for the title role.

Too bad Brandon didn’t live, or he could have reprised his father‘s role as Kato. But maybe his American looks might not have made him as credible. Jason Scott Lee already played Kato in a roundabout way in his role in the Bruce Lee bio-pic (Dragon, 1993). He might be one to consider for Kato, but he‘s entered his 40‘s right along with Jet Li now, so we still have a problem. Even Russell Wong and Jon Kit Lee are in their 40‘s. I’m drawing a blank on young martial arts stars.

Hopefully there‘s some newcomer yet to be seen who‘s on the rise.

I found out tonight my wife is having an affair?

I walked in on my wife sleeping with a few guys and I was suddenly heartbroken and I cried for a long time. She confronted me about it and blamed it on me since she says she has known all about my many infidelities over the years. I calmly explained to her that a guy is expected to cheat but a woman is to remain faithful. I also told her I plan to fight for full custody of our girls since I don’t want them being raised by a slut. How can I go on with my life knowing that the only woman I ever loved stabbed me in the back? Please help me through my grief.
All of you are fucking idiots. Do the world a favor and kill yourselves. I‘ll attempt to educate you although I find it to be a banal use of my valuable time. Men have a need for sex and intimacy with many women since we’re very superior in the way of intelligence and athleticism, and by nature we bore much more easily than you females. My wife had no right to cheat on me since I satsify her every carnal desire. I was wronged and I am friends with all the judges in town including the broads, and I will have custody :)
I love how you immoral jerkwads are justifying and defending how my wife cheated. What I have done is irrelevant. Every man I have ever known has cheated but any woman I have known that has cheated has ended up with a bloody nose or floating in the East River. She did me wrong and hurt me and now I am gonna destroy her, and take the kids although I don’t care about them at all.