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Is my wife selfish? Mid-life crisis?

My wife and I have been married for almost 15 years. We have had our fair share of bumps along the way, which until now, I thought we got though it together.

The gist of it is for the first 11-12 years, I worked a lot and in hind sight neglected my family for my job. I thought I was doing the right thing, by furthering my self professionally so I could provide for my family, but I guess not. My wife never really said much about it. We had a few discussion/arguments at first, but then they subsided. I assumed everything was ok. Turns out she just stopped talking about it but the feelings never went away. She has always had trouble communicating with me which I think is due to a childhood trauma she experienced.

Over the years, she has pushed herself professionally as well, she went from waiting tables when we married to selling real estate, to going back to school and becoming a systems analyst for a large investment firm. About 2 years ago, she took a new job and has jumped in with both feet, I don’t blame her for that, I have done the same. The first year she would come home from work and work until 11-12 in the evening. She is not doing that so much anymore, however she recently started going to the gym (at her work) at 4am and most nights during the week from 5-7, coming home about 8pm. She has always battled with her weight and self image and I want her to be healthy and happy, but I am miserable now. Poetic justice, I guess!!! To top things off, a few weeks ago she told me that she doesn’t know if “this” is what she wants. This meaning our marriage. We are in our mid-30′s and have never been alone, started dating at 16 off and on, we had a child at 19 and married at 21. The thought of it for me is frightening, for her, she’s says she is ok with it. I can understand this to some degree, but we made a commitment to each other. I know someone will say it, so I will bring it up here. I considered that she might be having an affair, and that could very well be the case. If it is, I think I would be surprised, that is not like her. She has never trusted my fidelity and always figured I would cheat on her or leave her. Again, I think this stems from her childhood trauma. Trust and abandonment issues.

There are obviously a lot of details that I have left out, but is it normal for a woman who had a child and was married at a young age to feel like there is something she is missing in like? Is this a mid-life crisis and she will likely come to her senses, or is this the beginning of the end and I’m blinded by my love and commitment to her?

I want things to work out between us, but I am in my own personal hell right now and feel myself drifting into a depression. We have started marriage counseling and I have decided that I need to see a therapist on my own to learn how to cope with this situation. We don’t even act like a married couple anymore, it is like having a roommate. I feel I am making things worse every time I open my mouth. Every day I feel a pit in my stomach, a lump in my throat and feel like I could cry at the drop of a hat (and sometimes do). My moods changes by the minute/hour, on moment I want to make things work between us and want to do whatever it takes, the next I just want her out of my life so I can begin to heal and move on. these feelings come out in my words and body language as I am not as good as her at keeping my feelings to myself.

As much as I want to save my marriage, ultimately I know I have to do what is best for me, even if that is helping her make up her mind. I don’t want things to get worse and if we do divorce, I still want her to be part of my life and not become enemies like my parents were, after all we have a child together and I don’t want to make things any worse than they will be for him.

can sperm get engraved in your skin?

iv accidentally been showering with a sperm stained wash cloth for a week. i am using a different wash cloth now ,but is it possible that the sperm is engraved in my skin? because i smell like sperm every time i sweat and its very embarrassing.

Who is up for the roles of Green Hornet and Kato? Recommend a pair to make this movie go!!?

I think Hugh Jackman as Brit Reid. But Matt Damon would also be a fine choice as his chops as an action star have grown in his role as Jason Bourne. Another great one to consider for Brit Reid is Jason Staham. Even Thomas Jane or Daniel Craig for the title role.

Too bad Brandon didn’t live, or he could have reprised his father‘s role as Kato. But maybe his American looks might not have made him as credible. Jason Scott Lee already played Kato in a roundabout way in his role in the Bruce Lee bio-pic (Dragon, 1993). He might be one to consider for Kato, but he‘s entered his 40‘s right along with Jet Li now, so we still have a problem. Even Russell Wong and Jon Kit Lee are in their 40‘s. I’m drawing a blank on young martial arts stars.

Hopefully there‘s some newcomer yet to be seen who‘s on the rise.

I found out tonight my wife is having an affair?

I walked in on my wife sleeping with a few guys and I was suddenly heartbroken and I cried for a long time. She confronted me about it and blamed it on me since she says she has known all about my many infidelities over the years. I calmly explained to her that a guy is expected to cheat but a woman is to remain faithful. I also told her I plan to fight for full custody of our girls since I don’t want them being raised by a slut. How can I go on with my life knowing that the only woman I ever loved stabbed me in the back? Please help me through my grief.
All of you are fucking idiots. Do the world a favor and kill yourselves. I‘ll attempt to educate you although I find it to be a banal use of my valuable time. Men have a need for sex and intimacy with many women since we’re very superior in the way of intelligence and athleticism, and by nature we bore much more easily than you females. My wife had no right to cheat on me since I satsify her every carnal desire. I was wronged and I am friends with all the judges in town including the broads, and I will have custody :)
I love how you immoral jerkwads are justifying and defending how my wife cheated. What I have done is irrelevant. Every man I have ever known has cheated but any woman I have known that has cheated has ended up with a bloody nose or floating in the East River. She did me wrong and hurt me and now I am gonna destroy her, and take the kids although I don’t care about them at all.

Is a husband being registered on an online dating service considered cheating?

I caught my husband on an online dating service. He says I am over reacting because it was just him having fun online. I am hurt and feel like if he would do this online he would be open to doing it in real life as well. We have been married for 7 1/2 yr
Thing is he has been “chatting” with some ladies, requesting pictures and more information. As if he is a single man looking for a date

Sb told me my wife has an affair with one of her colleagues. what should i do?i have 2 girls. 4 & 7?