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Husband caught looking at other women online, emailing and having conversations for the second time in 5 month?

In April, I found out that my husband had been looking online at naked women, posting ads on craigslist and going to affair sites. He even had conversations about meeting up with people. He told me never cheated on me and that he only did that because he was stressed and that relieved his stress. We went to counseling and he told me he was sexual abused when he was younger. He got some help for that but stopped going and we were doing fine for 5 months or at least I thought we were.
I had a really bad feeling in my gut Monday night and so Tuesday i went to look on his computer. He must of forgotten to erase his history and emails because I found all these emails for craigslist for ads he responded too, websites and escorts. He told me he only ever wanted pictures of people never to actually cheat. The scary thing is that some of these people are transsexuals.
He tells me he can’t live without me and has thought of suicide because of all his stress. He has never told me anything even though he agreed to always share how we feel so there would be no secrets. I’m bipolar and know what it’s like to really be depressed and think about suicide. I would up and leave him if it wasn’t for our 2 yr old son. I don’t know if I can believe him because it sounds like the same exact thing as last time, and that he never really tried what we learned at therapy and made me look like an idiot trying to work it out in the 1st place. He says he can’t live without us and wanted to tell me but never did. I’m very upset, pissed and depressed I ran out of medicine for my bipolar and anxiety 2 weeks ago. I’m waiting for insurance to kick in so I can get my refills. I feel like he made a choice not to tell me or open up to me about everything bothering him just like before. I don’t understand why he did this and why he would be looking at transsexuals unless that has to due with his being abused before. I have no idea what to think :(
Yes I have thought I was the problem and we discussed this the first time and I tried my best to make that situation better. I even asked this time if he’s unhappy because we seemed to be fine. He swears it’s not me, it’s him and he needs to work on himself and make himself better. I thought the same thing when I found him doing that because it would be safe to say he wasn’t happy with our love life. I tried my best to make things right and like i said before i’m bipolar and on antidepressants and the meds have killed my libido but I STILL tried my hardest. He isn’t the only one stressed in this marriage and that also takes a toll on my libido.

my husband has an affair?

my husband has affair with another woman I want to know what should I do please help me I need advise quick!!

What should I do my girlfriend is having an emotional affair?

My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I am 24 she is 21. We have never lived together. I live alone she lives with her parents.

Currently I work all day and am highly stressed with my job and my 2 businesses and cant talk to her during the day. She currently does not have a job and sits on the sofa all day in her parents house on msn messenger ‘appearing offline’. While I am online on Skype for work and also msn.

She regularly talks to one guy in particular while appearing offline. This guys facebook friends are all only women – no men at all. I have read some of her past chat logs to him where they talk about sex in general and vibrators, amoung other things. She confides in him for emotional support and advice. He sometimes mentions she should break up with me in chat logs.

I have said to her I do not like the guy and it would make me feel more comfortable if he was removed as she has never met him in person. I deleted my x girlfriend from social networking sites, im and phones at my girlfriends request.

She refused to delete this guy when I asked and when I deleted him as a ‘joke’. She added him back on everything and got extremely angry.

What should I do. I do not like her confiding in this guy who i know exactly what his intensions are. It seems he hangs around women waiting for them to break up with their boyfriends to sleep with them.

How would you feel if your live in boyfriend did not ask you?

to pick his son up from school when it is his turn but he is not able? He is divorced and his son lives with his ex wife. He visits us once a week and every other weekend. On the days he is not able to pick up his son he asks his ex-wife to do it for him and then he picks him up at her house. He tells me he does not want to ask her if it is okay for me to pick him up because it would upset her. When they were going through their divorce he told her they would do the parenting and I would not be involved. But it has been a year and a half now. I believe my boyfriend still feels very guilty about having an affair and leaving his wife and son. However, maybe I should count my blessings – she hardly ever calls our home and does not interfere in our lives. Any advice?

Will I ever trust my husband again?

18 months ago my husband told me he had been unhappy for 14 years. Two weeks after hitting me with this bombshell I found out he had been having an affair by text message and phone ( I have no proof of physical contact) with a woman at work.
We worked through this very difficult time but I don’t know if he was really sorry or just sorry he got found out.
We continued to enjoy a good sex life..we got into the soft swinging scene through an internet site and we bothed enjoyed it at first. We would both participate in web cam fun. He always knew my boundaries and what I found acceptable and what I didn’t like. Unfortunately he pushed the boundary and had phone sex with a woman from the swinging site when I was on night duty. More arguments and fights ensued. I continued to participate in the cam stuff as it was easier than fighting. I have found out recently that he has been having cybersex with a woman on a regular basis.He has promised to stop.Can I trust him again? I do love him.

How do your track a lost cell phone?

My friend lost his COMPANY cellie yesterday and he’s been calling it, but no answer and it’s not cut off.

Is there a website that he can go to to track down a lost cell phone?