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You Asked About: Husband Having An Affair What To Do

Donald asks…

my husband has an affair?

my husband has affair with another woman I want to know what should I do please help me I need advise quick!!

Chas answers:

Are you better off with or without him?

Make a list with two columns – TOGETHER and APART.

List all your reasons to stay together and all the reasons why you should be apart. Think about it.

If it’s together than you two need to talk. He also needs to be checked for sexually transmitted diseases and you need proof that he was checked. You both need to set out what your expectations are of the marriage from that time on and what the consequences will be if they are violated.

If it’s apart then you two need to talk. If you’ve been intimate since he’s had the affair going on, he still needs to be checked for STDs. You need to decide then how the union is going to end.

Think about your decision carefully.

The best of luck to you.

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You Asked About: My Girlfriend Is Having An Emotional Affair

Robert asks…

What should I do my girlfriend is having an emotional affair?

My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years. I am 24 she is 21. We have never lived together. I live alone she lives with her parents.

Currently I work all day and am highly stressed with my job and my 2 businesses and cant talk to her during the day. She currently does not have a job and sits on the sofa all day in her parents house on msn messenger ‘appearing offline’. While I am online on Skype for work and also msn.

She regularly talks to one guy in particular while appearing offline. This guys facebook friends are all only women – no men at all. I have read some of her past chat logs to him where they talk about sex in general and vibrators, amoung other things. She confides in him for emotional support and advice. He sometimes mentions she should break up with me in chat logs.

I have said to her I do not like the guy and it would make me feel more comfortable if he was removed as she has never met him in person. I deleted my x girlfriend from social networking sites, im and phones at my girlfriends request.

She refused to delete this guy when I asked and when I deleted him as a ‘joke’. She added him back on everything and got extremely angry.

What should I do. I do not like her confiding in this guy who i know exactly what his intensions are. It seems he hangs around women waiting for them to break up with their boyfriends to sleep with them.

Chas answers:

If he’s advising her to break up with you, you might ask her why. It could be that you two have bigger problem than the online guy. Maybe she’s unhappy in your relationship. I think I’d ask something like this. “Hon, you turn to this other guy instead of me when you have a problem. I want to be the one to meet your needs. Can you talk to me? Is there some way that I’m not being the guy you need me to be?”
Sometimes the humble and sincere approach does more than straight arguing.
Also, it sounds like she’s lonely and you’re busy. She needs to hear from you and be taken out by you regularly to get her through this time in her life. Try and make meeting her needs your priority. If you don’t have time to do that, then you shouldn’t have a girlfriend. Relationships take quality time.

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You Asked About: How To Ask Your Wife If She Is Having An Affair

Charles asks…

How would you feel if your live in boyfriend did not ask you?

to pick his son up from school when it is his turn but he is not able? He is divorced and his son lives with his ex wife. He visits us once a week and every other weekend. On the days he is not able to pick up his son he asks his ex-wife to do it for him and then he picks him up at her house. He tells me he does not want to ask her if it is okay for me to pick him up because it would upset her. When they were going through their divorce he told her they would do the parenting and I would not be involved. But it has been a year and a half now. I believe my boyfriend still feels very guilty about having an affair and leaving his wife and son. However, maybe I should count my blessings – she hardly ever calls our home and does not interfere in our lives. Any advice?

Chas answers:

Leave the parenting duties to the parents!! Its not your business you are just the girlfriend.

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You Asked About: Is It An Affair By Text

George asks…

Will I ever trust my husband again?

18 months ago my husband told me he had been unhappy for 14 years. Two weeks after hitting me with this bombshell I found out he had been having an affair by text message and phone ( I have no proof of physical contact) with a woman at work.
We worked through this very difficult time but I don’t know if he was really sorry or just sorry he got found out.
We continued to enjoy a good sex life..we got into the soft swinging scene through an internet site and we bothed enjoyed it at first. We would both participate in web cam fun. He always knew my boundaries and what I found acceptable and what I didn’t like. Unfortunately he pushed the boundary and had phone sex with a woman from the swinging site when I was on night duty. More arguments and fights ensued. I continued to participate in the cam stuff as it was easier than fighting. I have found out recently that he has been having cybersex with a woman on a regular basis.He has promised to stop.Can I trust him again? I do love him.

Chas answers:

You answered your own question, he obviously cannot be trusted.

The fact you have let it slip and “work through it” shows that he can get away with it, and it -will- happen again.
I am sorry..

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You Asked About: How To Track A Lost Cell Phone

William asks…

How do your track a lost cell phone?

My friend lost his COMPANY cellie yesterday and he’s been calling it, but no answer and it’s not cut off.

Is there a website that he can go to to track down a lost cell phone?

Chas answers:

Sorry, no. Best thing to do is to call and suspend service before someone uses it. If it isn’t reported, he (or his company) will likely be responsible for any charges generated by whoever finds it. And if they start making international calls, this can be thousands of dollars.
One option if his company uses a GPS tracker on the phone. Then the company may be able to track it.

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You Asked About: Why Would A Husband Leave His Wife

Linda asks…

Why would a husband leave his wife for a very ugly woman?

Ok my friend’s husband left her for a very ugly woman and then tells my friend that he doesn’t know yet if the relationship with the ugly woman is going to work. Why would a guy do this? And why would he tell her he isn’t sure that the relationship with the other woman is going to work out?

Chas answers:

No idea

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