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Hardware to Catch a Cheating Spouse – Cheatcatcher Knows!

Chas — Sat, 14 Aug 2010 19:13:55 +0000

Even though we see the basic technology on TV, we read about it in books, and we even have friends who have used it, some of us are still a little unsure about the idea of using hardware to catch a cheating spouse. What if we don’t use it right and the cheater finds out? What about when we know? How do we retrieve the hardware and get rid of the evidence of our quest for the truth?

There’s no doubt that the right internet website helps. We all need more than just access to the hardware. We need to know how to go about making sure that we can pull off the spying that will bring us the truth.

It doesn’t feel good to have a doubt in a spouse. But a cheating partner isn’t all that concerned with how you might feel. Thus, it’s often more appropriate to simply get the evidence that you need to be sure and then deal with the situation based on what you feel is right for you. It’s not hard to detect the cheater’s actions and activities. It’s actually become so easy that most cheaters don’t stand a chance of getting away with their affairs. The only way cheaters don’t get caught today is if you never check up on the stories and find the direct evidence.

Once you have that evidence, there’s no need for the game of denial and patronizing that typically happens when you present just suspicions. If you present evidence, self assured knowledge, and the overwhelming proof of infidelity then you regain control of the relationship. You gain control of the next step.

Follow the simple steps to using hardware to catch a cheating spouse through Cheatcatcher and you’ll be able to rely on the evidence rather than the stories as you navigate your next technique to catch a cheat.

Catch a Cheating Spouse – Online or Off – It Ain’t Hard!

Chas — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 15:01:40 +0000

One of the only reasons that you think it’s too hard to catch a cheating spouse in the act is because you don’t know how to go about doing it. By now, we do know that we live in a land of technology that allows us to do all kinds of amazing things. Certainly we all know that we have the technology to remain informed about the state of our own marriage.

Simple things like emails, text messages, and even where the car has been lately can give you all the clues that you need to put it all together. If it’s simply a function of finding the right hotel rendezvous you can easily do that. If the affair is completely on the internet you can just as easily find out what’s being done without your knowledge.

With the right information you can know for sure the next time he or she logs on and sends elicit emails to a lover. With the right equipment you can negate their excuses and lies with evidence taken directly from the GPS system in the car.

Because it’s so easy today to actually catch and prove a spouse in the midst of an affair, fewer people are living the lie. With simple methods and easy to install technology, you can stop worrying and wondering and finally put the real cards on the table.

Deciding where to go from there is a personal decision that often requires careful consideration. But you certainly can’t take the next step until you are able to positively prove that the affair you’ve been suspecting is real.

Don’t make the mistake of fooling yourself into believing that you “owe” your spouse the benefit of the doubt. Find out for sure and stop putting yourself through the emotional washing machine that wondering brings about.

How to Spy on a Cheating Husband – It’s easy!

Chas — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 17:51:45 +0000

Most wives know when their husband is having an affair. Most women at the very least get a sense of their husband’s emotional and physical withdrawal, their disinterest in family life, and their sudden need to work extensively.

A cheating husband can be very difficult to live with, but the not being sure can be even more difficult. With every question that a wife develops her mind starts to run in circles. We all want to think the very best of our spouse and when we start to question their intentions we often end up feeling guilty because we don’t have proof.

Nobody likes to find out that they were not trusted when they were being honest. But it is possible to gather together evidence of an affair if your suspicions are founded and you find that you are trusting his explanations less and less. After all, how many times can someone fall asleep on the train or be given overtime without it reflecting on the paycheck?

While it is certainly possible to tail a cheating husband, to hire someone to tail him for you, or to create scenarios that push him into telling you the truth (eventually) the real evidence is usually locked away on his computer.

The more you know about what your husband does for a living the easier it will be for you to figure out if he is actually having an affair. A cheating husband isn’t going to conveniently save emails in a folder marked “affair” on his desktop. But he may very well label some correspondence with an unlikely but mundane topic. I once knew someone who kept all of their incriminating emails in a file marked “trash.” Since the trash icon on a desktop looks like a trash can, the victimized spouse was soon able to figure out that this was a bogus file and opened it.

Why men think that saving the incriminating evidence on their computers is a good idea is beyond me, but most do. This gives them a tangible method of fantasizing about the other woman and it keeps the affair fresh in their eyes. If a woman can gain access to his laptop or his main computer it is quite possible that with a little digging she can find the emails and chats that he saved for those intimate moments he spends alone.

If you can barely gain access to his computers, but you can do a quick software installation, you can easily slip some spyware or a keystroke logger onto his computer and you will very soon have your answer. Email correspondence seems like a safer way to elicit an affair because it is impossible to be overheard. With today’s technology it is quite possible for a wife to catch a cheating husband by “overhearing” his electronic communications with the other woman, or potentially the other man.

This software is easy to purchase and can be shipped discretely to your home. Service technicians can often walk you through the process of installing the software correctly. They can also help you install the software without it being detected by his computer’s security. This way, you can be absolutely sure about his activities and catch him in the act of incriminating himself of cheating.

Need Help in Confronting the Other Woman?

Chas — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 18:33:26 +0000

When you discover that your partner has engaged in acts of infidelity it is difficult to figure out who you are the angriest with. While your partner is entitled to the brunt of the blame, there are plenty of “other women” that were well aware of the fact that there was a serious and committed relationship in play before they showed up on the scene.Many women choose to take matters into their own hands and confront the other woman, very much like a mother lion protecting her own.

Most women need help in confronting the other woman. Do you charge at her like a bull on a rampage? Should you reason with her? This is an emotional issue and emotional issues usually run into emotional behavior. It’s very difficult to contain the anger, hurt, and the sense of betrayal you might feel when confronting the other woman. However, the more your can keep your emotions under wraps the more headway you are likely to make in two areas. First, you may very well glean some information that turns out to be valuable in your decision making process. Second, you might be able to come to terms with the other woman’s culpability.

Before you confront the other woman, decide what you want to get out of the deal. If you want to find out her motivations, her intentions, and her own personal knowledge of the relationship she is stepping into you will achieve your goal better if you have an actual goal. If you are just out to create a scene and vent your anger then you will most likely only have one confrontation that ends poorly. Venting your anger at the other woman isn’t really going to accomplish much. Unless you have her ear for days on end, there will always be more to say than you thought of at the moment of the confrontation.

Fortunately, there are ways to confront the other woman without blowing your sense of dignity or lunging toward a long winded but useless rampage. If she is willing, set up a meeting time with her so that you can enter the situation with some amount of organization. Make notes of the hot points and even questions that you want to put on the table during the confrontation. Let her know that you are willing to hear her out because you will most likely be able to be heard that way. If you both claim to love the same person, emotions will run harder but if you both agree to talk to each other like women you might be able to come away with a renewed sense of self and understanding regarding your relationship.

It is not uncommon for many confrontations to put the relationship in question into a new light. There may be information or thoughts that come to the surface that make you start to question whether being in a relationship with someone who was so willing to step out is something that you really want to involve yourself in. In many cases, the other woman ends up just as behind the proverbial “love eight ball” as you, just in different ways. Confronting the other woman may or may not get you what you want, but you are almost always guaranteed a new perspective if you can keep your head during the confrontation.

Smart Ways To Catch A Cheating Spouse

Chas — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 18:25:07 +0000

If you feel that your spouse may be cheating, you will want to find out the truth — you need to know the truth. As devastating as it may be, you have a right to know if your spouse is cheating on you. Here are four ways that can help you determine if your spouse is cheating:

Hire a private investigator

The best way to go about catching a cheating spouse is to hire a private investigator, or a PI. A private investigator will have better access to certain resources than the average person will. They can follow your spouse and record what your spouse does during the daytime, as well as nighttime — whenever you suspect that they may be cheating. A private investigator will use such tools as night vision, video cameras, binoculars, listening devices, and other technologically-advanced equipment to find out what your spouse is up to.

The best thing about hiring a private investigator is that they will provide you with actual proof of the affair at the end of their investigation. This way you know, for a fact, if your spouse is cheating.

Look at their cell-phone records

Another way to catch a cheating spouse is to obtain a copy of their cell phone records. This should be relatively easy since your mail comes to the same address. You will want to look for any phone numbers that have been called on a regular basis. Once you notice a suspicious phone number, you can call the phone number and speak to the person who answers the phone. Even if the person doesn’t admit guilt, they will generally tip their hand in some way. Many people involved in an affair are hoping for the spouse to find out. Or use our recommended Reverse Phone Lookup service – over on the right >

Perform your own investigation

Another way to catch a cheating spouse is to take a day that you feel they are up to no good and follow them around. You will want to borrow a friend’s vehicle, this way your spouse won’t recognize your car. Be prepared to be patient, though — it could take a while. It’s a good idea if you can have a friend come with you as well; it’s helpful to have that second set of eyes.

However what if you get spotted, or simply don’t have the time? Micro-electronics, in the form of ‘bugs’ you can place in a car ( i.e GPS – Trackers), can either ‘store’ info as to where a car has been in a time frame or you can even track their car online in real time…

While it’s a painful thing to acknowledge that your spouse may be cheating on you, you owe it to yourself to find out for sure. By using one of these methods, you will either be able to put your nagging suspicions to rest, or get the proof you need to confront your spouse about their cheating ways.

How to Catch an Online Cheat

Chas — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 17:54:28 +0000

So you have been observing your partner for a while and you are becoming more and more convinced that they are having an online affair or indulging in some form of online activity that you consider damaging to your relationship.

Good News: Catching an online cheat can be done pretty simply unless your partner is a techno wiz…

If you are ready to start gathering your evidence and want to proceed, you need to consider a few basic things before you get started.

Online cheating usually requires at least a little bit of online savvy.

Your partner may have been internet incompetent just a year ago, but there are more than enough resources out there for them to learn how to cover their tracks fairly well in a very short time.

The thing about internet cheating is that it is actually impossible to cover up completely. When you delete an email or close out a chat window or even erase your history, there is still a small electronic fingerprint left behind somewhere on the computer. Unless your partner wipes their hard drive clean after every internet liaison, you will be able to find your evidence.

Some suspicious partners simply ask their other halves about their online activities until there is no way out except the truth. Others ask their partner for their email password and condemning if they don’t get it.

Of course, there is something to be said for ‘keystroke loggers’ and spyware that can tell you exactly what has been going on on the computer while you are off doing something else. These programs are designed to be discreet and they offer the user a chance to spy undetected on an online cheat. Some programs become difficult to use with certain high end security programs. My computer is guarded like Fort Knox simply because I do my banking online and I need to know that I am relatively safe. If you install a general spyware on my laptop, my security program will pick it up and sound the alarm.

Keystroke loggers are less detectable and can usually be installed unless your partner has a few definite versions of specific security software running. Of course, this software is not difficult to disable. You simply go into the program and shut it off.

Read the fine print of the company you are purchasing your keystroke logger or your spyware from. If your credit card statement is going to come back to you and your partner with Keystroke Loggers Are Us on it, the chances of it being a successful endeavor are rather slim. Most companies understand that you are looking into an online cheat and you need a little discretion on your credit card statement.

Be sure that you are prepared for the worst before you install a program that is going to confirm what you already know. You might find that you have been portrayed as some sort of horrific monster to help justify the affair, or that your partner is very good at lying to both you and the competition. Whatever you are about to find out, you need to be prepared to deal with it. How you choose to respond is up to you but you will most likely.

Reasons To Spy On A Cheat. Turning a blind eye just doesn’t work!

Chas — Thu, 28 Jun 2007 08:58:07 +0000

Should you spy on your cheating husband or wife? The need to know whether your spouse is cheating and EXACTLY what kind of cheating is taking place is often strong. There are a number of reasons why the drive to spy is powerful. Here are seven:

1. Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed something in your relationship is different or questioned the change of behavior in your partner. Perhaps you confronted your cheating husband or cheating wife and your accusation was met with denial. This created a huge dilemma for you because a part of you was screaming, “Hey, this doesn’t make sense! I don’t believe it!” To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil. If the truth as you suspect it is confirmed, you can take a deep breath and at least know that you can trust yourself. You are NOT CRAZY! Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and trust more fully your gut feelings.

2. Spying on cheating partners often helps the person feel connected to the partner who seems to be steadily moving away. It is a way of maintaining contact and having some sort of connection to this stranger who once was well known. Isn’t it like the game of hide-and-seek we used to play as children? Sometimes there, sometimes gone. At least it is a game, and a game is at least some contact, some involvement. You miss the connection and try to find some way to maintain the ties.

3. Spying on a cheating spouse may be an honest attempt to bring resolution to the relationship. You want to know the truth. You sense something does not fit. You suspect there is a breach of something. You want to know what you are up against. You are not willing to stand quietly by and wait. You are a person of action. You want some sort of movement. You want to get on with the relationship. You want to get on with your life. You know that it is difficult maintaining your sanity when there might be this huge elephant in the corner of the room that no one is talking about. You want to know the truth, face the truth, deal with the truth and be free.

4. Cheating husbands or cheating wives often, unfortunately, lead to the demise of marital relationships. If you strongly suspect this to be true for your situation you will want to protect yourself legally. If there is betrayal, lying and deception regarding a third party, other forms of deception may exist – financially or in other areas of the relationship. Having “evidence” does have impact in most court systems. Whether you need to protect yourself legally depends on the kind of affair facing you and the character of your spouse. If your spouse is someone who can’t say no, doesn’t want to say no or is acting out rage, please make sure to take protective steps.

5. You may want to protect yourself medically if you suspect you have a cheating husband or wife. You might be concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. Your health may be at stake. And, of course, you need to know! Shame, guilt or self-absorption may be so powerful in your partner that it gets in the way of responsibly informing you of the medical dangers when another partner is sexually brought into your relationship.

6. Seeing signs of a cheating spouse often mean secrets. Secrets are hard work!Secrets are a drain. If the secret persists, its impact is felt in subtle but insidious ways. People become physically ill, sometimes seriously so. People become depressed. People start doing crazy things. Children start acting out, stop achieving, become listless or exhibit a host of other symptoms. Children, or the next generation, often carry the emotional load. You want to spy because you don’t want to live with a secret. You want to discover the truth. You want to feel the freeing power of the exposed secret and the opportunity it offers for healing, resolution, a rich relationship and a productive life.

7. Some of us like drama. Soap opera scenarios and adrenaline based lives are a hallmark of our society. We get juiced or pumped up entering into emotional relational triangles that offer intrigue. Without adrenaline, life seems boring or mundane. Perhaps an unspoken reason for an affair may be to fan the fire? Or, you may spy on your cheating spouse to keep the sense of being alive a part of your life.

If any of these reasons make any kind of sense to you then you should consider finding out more here….

Once you manage to seduce your way into a first date, you may want to look at some dating ideas to help you out. The online dating website DateHookup.com has loads of tips to help your dating career, as well as a huge online personals section with personals from around the world.

By the way, are you looking to buy a surveillance camera to keep an eye over your house while you’re away? There are many different surveillance cameras to choose from, depending what you need the security camera system for and how much you’re willing to spend on your cameras.

Those tapes might also come in useful if your partner’s cheating at home while you’re away!

How To Get A Cheap Divorce

Chas — Fri, 22 Jun 2007 16:44:34 +0000

Even when a marriage has totally broken down many couples are loathe to start divorce proceedings for a number of reasons:

1) Hope of a reconciliation
2) Thinking of the effect on the children
3) The cost of the divorce

Today we’re focusing on number #3. Do you have to pay thousands of dollars to divorce someone. Is it impossible to just get a cheap divorce and keep those bloody lawyers out of the equation?

The answer is a resounding NO in both cases! When both parties agree that a divorce is inevitable they can fill in forms downloaded online which are printed off, filled in and presented to the Clerk of the Court in whichever State they reside. That’s it! The documents are presented to the presiding judge on the specified day and it goes through. Cheap divorce done and no lawyers counting the money for doing f-all!

Result? Two newly single people both considerably better off after NOT having to pay out fortunes to attorneys.

Of course if the splitting of property, finances etc. is involved this might not always work. Or custody of children either. But as these conflict divorces are the only ones we hear about we assume that a cheap divorce is out of the question. The fact is that even when division of assets is involved it can be done without the intervention of parasitic lawyers looking for their cut. ‘LA Law’ has a lot to answer for – we’ve been brainwashed into thinking paying lawyers is inevitable!

For a couple who are both employed, retain their own assets and have amicably agreed to just split themselves rather than split assets this is the way forward and a total no-brainer. Even when there is some dispute over property and assets it is still possible to arrange for each party to fill in their own forms and then the judge decides (which he/she would do anyway even when both parties are legally represented). The only difference here is that an overpaid lawyer hasn’t filled out the forms for you!

OurDivorceAgreement.com shows you how to create your own comprehensive divorce agreement online by completing a series of self-guided forms.

Once you’ve completed the forms, you simply press a button and the site then generates:

1) A complete divorce agreement – including child and property issues if applicable.
2) A spreadsheet outlining your proposed division of assets and liabilities.
3) The financial disclosure document and state-specific forms required for filing.

P.S. For men looking to protect themselves from punitive divorce costs and consequences:

The Honey Trap – is he ready to cheat? Will you pay to find out?

Chas — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 09:31:37 +0000

It’s big business these days as many women are prepared to pay another woman to seduce their boyfriends or husbands!

Well, let’s be clear here, not to go all the way of course just to see if the man is open to temptation and, most importantly, if he’s willing to succumb!

Many Brides To Be are using Honey Trap Agencies to test whether their future life partners are ready and willing to have sex with other women.

Gloria F. is one such woman, “I paid an agency $600 to test my fiance, unfortunately he failed the test and I broke up with him. I was heartbroken but better that than to have married a guy who was prepared to have sex with another woman just weeks away from our wedding day – it’s not as if he wasn’t getting it at home”.

Honey Trap Agency owner Fay Jackson explains, “Out of all the honey trap ‘stings’ I’ve set up around 75% of the men make it clear they want sex. Of course my operatives won’t even give them a peck on the cheek, let alone sex! All they do is get taped confirmation that the guy is prepared to cheat. Yes they flirt and come on as women that want a fling. Of course they are beautiful too but all the guys have to do is say no”

But isn’t this just unfair on guys who would never get the opportunity to cheat?

Says Fay: “If the guy is open to offers, is prepared to cheat then he shouldn’t be getting married full stop! I really enjoy it when a guy compliments me and then explains that he’s spoken for, I happily report back to his partner that he’s a good guy. There’s nothing wrong with him flirting with me as long as he stops before it goes too far”

Unhappily it’s a fact that Fay giving her client good news is rare, “Given the option of commitment free, risk free sex most men go for it,” says Fay “if they’re truly in love with their partners they don’t”.

Now, it’s apparent that Fay’s clients already suspect their partners are capable of cheating so the 3 in 4 ratio that she suggests may be a risky statistic to use. Nonetheless its apparent that the majority of men, given the opportunity and inclination, would cheat.

The service is not confined to engaged couples. Fay’s clients include gay men and women in long term relationships and married couples wanting to know if their partner is prepared to cheat. “I have to admit that I feel bad about that sometimes”,said Fay,“When a 50 year old guy, married for 30 years, is approached by a babe in the bar of his sales convention hotel who makes it clear she finds him attractive what’s he going to do?”

None of this would hold up in a court of law, it’s entrapment after all, but that’s the name of the game and lives are being changed, for better or worse, by Fay and her team of operatives.

What are your views on Honey Traps? Let us know by commenting on this post.

Get CSI on those panties

Chas — Tue, 24 Apr 2007 18:05:34 +0000

This one is for the guys, well mostly!

Is there no end to what’s available these days! NO! Which is cool right?

This is the easiest and effective way to put an end to the nightmare of suspicion and doubt caused by the infidelity of a cheating spouse. Check their underwear for semen residue!

If you need to know what’s really going on in your relationships and want to know now, try the SemenSpy detection test kit.

Now you can quickly, easily, and accurately detect and identify suspected semen, sperm stains in undergarments in 5 minutes or less.This kit will quickly and easily monitor your spouse’s or partner’s sexual activity by detecting otherwise invisible traces of dried semen that is left in their undergarments after sex… yeeuch!

If any traces of semen are present on the area you decide to test, even in the smallest trace amounts, the SemenSpy Detection Test Kit will detect it. Invisible traces of dried semen can easily be detected for up to 2 years. CSI investigators say 30 years but, let’s face it, we ain’t interested in 2 or 30 years ago – more like last night!

Features:

Detects invisible semen stains

Quick, easy and affordable
Laboratory proven results in a home test
Accurate results in 5 minutes or less
Discreet and confidential
Easy to follow instructions
Test up to 10 items with each kit

How does it work?

After sexual intercourse the flowback of the male partners semen from the woman’s body results in dried semen stains in the undergarment worn by the woman after the episode. In most cases this flowback will continue in small amounts for as long 72 hours after sex, even after showering. However, the initial stain left in the underwear worn or put on immediately after unprotected sexual intercourse might not be obvious to the naked eye. That’s where to SemenSpy system comes into play.

How fast do I get the results?

The 5 Minute Infidelity Test Kit provides instant results in the comfort and privacy of your own home.

How accurate is SemenSpy?
SemenSpy is considered to be 100% accurate. If you want to see just how well this amazing product works all you have to do is test an item that you know for sure is stained with semen.

How old can the stain be?

The age of the suspected dried semen stain is not even a factor to consider when performing this test. All SemenSpy test kits are tested and guaranteed to accurately detect dried semen stains up to two years old.

However, in most cases you will be testing articles where you think the stain may have been recently deposited, meaning any garment obtained from a relationship setting is perfectly testable. Remember, we’re testing dried stains. Once the stain is dried on the material that’s exactly where it’s going to stay. Simply store the suspected article in a paper bag at normal room temperature until your test kit arrives in the post.

Will this test stain the suspected garment?

The SemenSpy detection test kit is designed specifically for ease of use by the everyday consumer and leaves no trace of the test procedure on the suspected article. PLUS… The detection products also work on any type or color of material. Test undergarments, furniture, linens, auto upholstery etc. without fear of damage or stain.

Why do they give a second test kit free?

SemenSpy was modeled after the E.P.T. home pregnancy test. Like most home pregnancy kits, it also comes with two kits because of the serious nature of the tests that are being performed.

Think about it this way: If you did a test and got a negative result, the first thing you might think is - “How do I know it even worked?” That’s when you can get the ultimate peace of mind with this amazing product by testing a control sample that you know in fact is semen.

What if the guy she is seeing has had a vasectomy?

Yes, SemenSpy detects semen from men who have had this procedure performed. Semen and sperm are two different things. A vasectomy does stop the delivery of sperm but ejaculation and semen production remains normal.