Clues That Your Partner Is Having An Affair

Posted on October 25, 2007 
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46 Clues Your Partner is Having an Affair

Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are a bit “tongue in cheek” while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. Do any of these ring a warning bell?

Signs of a Cheating Spouse:



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1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine cabinet, and you’ve had a vasectomy.

2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.)

3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you.

4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn’t tell you about it.

5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.

6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program.

7) She buys a cell phone and doesn’t let you know.

8) He sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to his office.

9) The cheating husband carries condoms, and you are on the pill.

10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID.

11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate.

12) He becomes “accusatory,” asking if you are being true to him, usually out of guilt.

13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, “Do you think it’s possible to love more than one person at a time?”

14) He buys himself new underwear.

15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc., are kept out of his car.

16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring.

17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with the laundry.

18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or her neck or back.

19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.

20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex with you.

21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.

22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but it never shows up on the pay stub.

23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house.

24) You find out by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but supposedly worked on those days.

25) Shows a sudden interest in a different type of music.

26) Spouse’s co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence.

27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance.

28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the computer, especially after you have gone to bed.

29) He throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistress’s house and had to eat the dinner you prepared when he got home.

30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights or on trips, more than previously.

31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husband’s shirt.

32) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off.

33) You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did not give your spouse.

34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is “touchy” and easily moved to anger.

35) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice.

36) He/she loses attention in the activities in the home.

37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that something is not right.

38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home.

39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly.

40) She has a “glow” about her.

41) Atypical erratic behavior.

42) He sneaks out of the house.

43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed.

44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later.

45) He tells you that you can get hold of him at a different telephone number.

46) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the first place.

Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundreds of couples over the past two decades heal from the agony of extramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his website at: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com


Comments

7 Responses to “Clues That Your Partner Is Having An Affair”

  1. Anonymous on October 25th, 2007 12:30 pm

    Clues Your Parter Is Having An Affair…

    Some of these signs of a cheating spouse are a bit tongue in cheek while others are tell tale signs that commonly appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. Do any of these ring a warning bell?…

  2. Brennan Kingsland on October 25th, 2007 3:35 pm

    I’d say #46 pretty much says it all.

  3. Rowell on October 26th, 2007 1:19 am

    Excellent video, Clive :)
    Now I know how to cheat and how not to get caught..

  4. Tim Denio on November 3rd, 2007 12:28 pm

    This is a great site! I agree with all the signs of a cheating spouse that you’ve mentioned here. One of the important things for anyone going through this very difficult situation is to not jump to any conclusions regarding your spouses’ possible infidelity.

    The biggest mistake I see people making is to confront their partner simply based on suspicions, but without any proof of the affair. It is imperative that you get some real proof of the affair before you confront your partner, because failing that you will only face denial and alert your spouse that they need to be be more careful about their affair.

  5. Bobby Rio on November 18th, 2007 6:52 am

    #46 is so true. Thats always my advice.. TRust your gut..

  6. Chris Davis on November 20th, 2007 1:08 am

    46 clues that your partner is having an affair! By the end of the list that gut will tell you what your partner is up to and if it is time to seriously investigate your relationship, your partners activities or your own jealous thoughts! Time to get it done before a New Year is upon us!

  7. Holly on July 11th, 2008 5:07 am

    I do quite a few of these trhings and i am not cheating. its a good thing my husband didnt look at this site. i sleep by my purse, go grocery shopping for hours…smell like different things when i get home due to patients of mine…

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