RSS
Posted by | | Comments 3

How to Confront a Suspected Cheater

Infidelity is one of the primary reasons that relationships break up. Now, you may suspect that your spouse is cheating on you, and you want to confront him or her — but you’re not sure how to proceed. You should take a few things into consideration before you march headstrong into a one-on-one confrontation with your spouse.

Conflict between the man and the womanFirst of all, remain calm and keep your composure. Losing your temper will solve nothing. It fact, it will likely make matters worse. Confronting your spouse with your concerns doesn’t have to turn into a shouting match. Do you have proof that your spouse is cheating? If so, what type of proof? Are you assuming that your spouse is cheating?

Perhaps because a friend of a friend saw your spouse talking to someone of the opposite sex? Make sure you have more to go on than hearsay or speculation before confronting your other half.

If you confront your partner with little-or-no proof that he or she is cheating, you could be creating trouble where there is none.

Sniper Spy

You should also be careful about involving friends or relatives in your confrontation. For instance, if you mention that a friend or family member saw your spouse with someone else, he or she may want to confront the friend or relative. That person may not want any further involvement even though he or she inadvertently became involved by informing you in the first place. The point is that by disclosing such information to your spouse, you could be causing a stressful situation for your friend or relative. It may be best to have further proof of cheating before confronting your spouse.

You should also consider the possibility that your spouse may not be cheating. Even though a friend or relative has seen your spouse with someone is not evidence that they are cheating. The person could be an old friend or co-worker. Engaging in a conversation, or having lunch, does not constitute having an affair. You’re probably wondering why your spouse didn’t mention the person or situation if it was so innocent. It could simply be that your spouse didn’t think it was important. Spouses do not always relate every single detail of their lives to each other, but that does not mean they are hiding something.

If there is reason to believe that your spouse may be cheating, and you want to confront them, do so tactfully. Tell your spouse that you have concerns and need to talk. Approach the subject openly and honestly by telling your spouse that they are a very important part of your life. Reaffirm your love for your spouse. Express your concerns without using an accusing tone. If your spouse isn’t cheating, they should be understanding of your concern. If your spouse is cheating, your expression of affection should make them feel a twinge of guilt.

You should never directly confront an abusive spouse alone. An abusive spouse may fly into a rage and cause you physical harm. You must consider your safety first. Have a friend or relative come over if you plan on confronting your spouse. If you prefer to confront your spouse alone, then do so in a public place. Your spouse will be less likely to become aggressive in public. Don’t rush to confront your spouse, but rather — take time to calm down and think things through.

Most often, a cheating spouse is not going to admit to their indiscretions voluntarily. If you do have proof of infidelity, be prepared for them to become defensive. It’s a natural reaction to get all ‘upset’ when put on the spot. If you don’t have the proof, and be told that your accusations are ‘mad’! — they may find it hard to forgive you and your relationship may become strained.

Confront if you must, but make sure you have the facts before accusing your spouse of cheating.

The best Cell Phone Spy

Related posts:

  1. How To Cope With A Suspected Cheater
  2. You Asked About: Confront Cheater Work
  3. You Asked About: Catch A Cheater Relationship
  4. Smart Ways To Catch A Cheating Spouse
  5. You Asked About: How To Catch Cheater

Entry Information

Comment Via Your Facebook Profile Below - or by Regular Blog Comment Farther Below (scroll down a bit!):

RSSComments: 3  |  Post a Comment  |  Trackback URL

  1. I found out through snooping (wrong i know) that my husband signed up to meet women for sex on a website. How do I confront him? BTW, he works out of town through the week and he’s looking for it where he is.

  2. I would suggest that while ‘snooping’ may seem underhand it doesn’t compare to what your husband is doing! Work out what you want the confrontation to achieve: do you just want him to stop? What will you do if he won’t accept your accusation? Are you prepared to kick him out? Think every possible outcome through including the one where he tries to make you the ‘bad guy’ for finding out.

  3. I agree. We all have to get over this ‘snooping’ thing! All you are trying to do is establish the facts. Believe it or not much of the time the result of sensible ‘snooping’ is good! They are NOT playing around!

    But I’d suggest, in that case, you keep the process you went through to confirm their fidelity to yourself :-) DON’T SHARE!

RSSPost a Comment  |  Trackback URL

CommentLuv badge

Reverse Number