July 25, 2009 | Chas | Comments 0

Husband’s Affair at Work – Discovered! Now What Do I Do?

I knew it! My husband, Gerry, and I have been married for almost 16 years and out of the blue he started up an affair with his colleague. It took me a few months to figure out how to make sure that I caught him, red handed, and with her.

My friend Janelle and I talked about all the different ways I could covertly catch him. She spent hours online helping me find just the right method. It was the spyware on the cell phone that finally nailed him. Tracking his car just helped me make sure I knew exactly where to show up and snap a few shots to throw in his lap.

Now that I know and can prove that I know, do I tell him that I know? Do I try to gather up more evidence? Should I go straight to a divorce attorney or should I run to a marriage counselor? I really don’t know exactly what I am supposed to do now other than sit here and be extremely angry.

How can this happen? How can someone just toss it all away? And why? I thought when I knew for sure that I would know exactly what I would do. It turns out all those violent fantasies are really just that. I am little more than a ball of angry confusion and can’t seem to make up my mind about something as simple as whether I am going to bother to eat dinner with him tonight.

Any type of guidance would really be appreciated. If you’ve been here, I am sure you know how desperate you become to prevent the situation from eating you alive. It’s more important than anything that I survive this, but I would survive better knowing that I was not the fool in the end.