Is he married ?

Posted on June 17, 2007 
Filed Under Can it be true?, Cheating tales

OK, so you’re on the dating site, checked your posts, and have been contacted by a few men expressing interest. You check out their profiles and there’s one that sounds just right, ticks all your boxes so you e-mail him back and before you know it your discussing getting together

But what are the chances he’s married already? According to most guestimates it’s 1 in 3! On top of that another 1 in 3 are in relationships and looking for someone new or a fling. If he IS already married but isn’t being upfront about it what are the chances of having an honest relationship with him? So how do you find out if he has a wife at home?

Well you could ask outright at the outset, maybe stating that you’d heard that many men were pretending to be single on dating sites amd making it quite clear that as far as you’re concerned this would be quite unacceptable. Living apart from his wife i.e. being separated does NOT mean he is single but maybe he thinks it does. Only being truly single i.e. never married or divorced cuts it!

What are the signs that he might be married or in a relationship? Is he simply a ‘Player’ looking for some quick conquest and then Adios?

If he won’t give you his home number - always a mobile or work number then that’s suspicious. If he says it’s best to call him at work something could be wrong.

Ok first dates are usually one-on-one in neutral territory and ‘meeting the family’ can seem quite a big step in any relationship but have you met any of his friends yet?

Is he free in talking about his education, work life, recent vacations and current living arrangements, is he happy to give you his address? Or does he avoid talking about these subjects in any depth.

Does he phone at the last minute to cancel a date or meeting? If says he works a 9 to 5 why can’t he meet you for dinner on any day of the week? Does he cook for himself or eat out often alone or with friends - that’s what single guys do. Or is someoneone else giving him his dinners?

Watch out too for his broaching the risky subjects of ‘open relationships’ or ‘wanting to take things slowly’ (stating he’s been hurt before) these could be leading up to the day when he lets slip that he’s unhappily (naturally!) married and that his wife doesn’t understand him and they are platonically staying together for the kids alone. You know the cliches.

But by that stage you could be in too deep and in love. So much so you are prepared to forgive his lying to you about his marital status and prepared to accept being the ‘other woman’.

When you like someone, especially at the begining of a relationship, you are often too quick about giving them the benefit of the doubt. A good ‘player’ can be very accomplished at allaying your concerns about his life when you’re not around

So if you truly want to find out if he’s already married do so early by checking him out. There’s nothing wrong in checking him out for a criminal record is there, would you not check out his references if he’d asked to borrow money? Of course you would!So check out if he’s been married after the first introductory date and before the third.

Simply go to Goverment-Records.com to gather that information in a matter of minutes. You’ll be surprised at how easy and inexpensive it is


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2 Responses to “Is he married ?”

  1. Bigjessop on June 18th, 2007 5:27 pm

    as a ‘Player’ I do my research - this site being a new place to checkout from time to time . Best new for me is that nothing u say here will affect my success rate ;-)

  2. Clare on June 19th, 2007 12:55 pm

    Good advice here - check up on a new guy totally - once you’re convinced THEN trust him! Guys lie it’s their nature!

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