Is Your Wife Cheating On You?

Even thinking about the fact that your wife may be cheating on you can be heartbreaking and devastating enough. If you suspect cheating and infidelity in your marriage, there are usually signs, or hints, beyond your “gut feeling” that she may be seeing other men.

Here are a few signs of a cheating wife that I am most asked about on this site:

• Unexplained behavior or ambiguous responses to direct questions
• Secretive phone conversations
• She starts deleting her computer history when she hasn’t in the past
• A sudden decrease in communication
• Changes in her sexual preferences or drive
• Starting arguments for no apparent reasons
• Changes in her daily routines
• A renewed interest in her physical appearance
• Going out with friends more often
• She suddenly has an interest in being away from the house

Look for changes in attitudes and any comments or remarks that your wife makes toward you. Does she attempt to get you out of the house, or does she bolt for the door every time you come home? Try offering to go out together, maybe for a date night, or just a quick lunch. If your wife uses examples like, “I have plans” or, “I don’t feel like going out”, especially on an ongoing basis, there is good reason to believe that she is hiding something.

Usually when one person in the relationship is starting fights with the other one, there is something wrong in the couple’s relationship. Disagreements, and even the occasional verbal spat are common in relationships, but when this is constantly happening, your spouse is probably hiding something from you. Aggression in this form may also be a sign of guilt.

If you have a good relationship with your wife’s friends, you could try asking them about your wife’s behavior. While their loyalties may remain with your wife, you may be able to gauge your mutual friends’ reactions to see if there is something worth worrying about. Also, if your wife is using her friends as an excuse to be out and about all the time — you may be able to catch your wife in a lie by talking to her friends.

While it’s a terrible feeling to even think that your wife may be cheating on you, living with the constant doubt is even worse. In order for you to keep your own health and sanity, you either need to get proof of an affair or infidelity, and then confront your spouse, or choose to put your feelings aside and trust that her whole heart is yours.