June 28, 2007 | | Comments 4

Reasons To Spy On A Cheat. Turning a blind eye just doesn’t work!

Should you spy on your cheating husband or wife? The need to know whether your spouse is cheating and EXACTLY what kind of cheating is taking place is often strong. There are a number of reasons why the drive to spy is powerful. Here are seven:

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1. Trust is a big reason, not of your partner, but yourself. Probably for some time you have sensed something in your relationship is different or questioned the change of behavior in your partner. Perhaps you confronted your cheating husband or cheating wife and your accusation was met with denial. This created a huge dilemma for you because a part of you was screaming, “Hey, this doesn’t make sense! I don’t believe it!” To deny this part of you, which KNOWS the truth, creates a tremendous internal turmoil. If the truth as you suspect it is confirmed, you can take a deep breath and at least know that you can trust yourself. You are NOT CRAZY! Spying is a way to confirm your suspicions and trust more fully your gut feelings.

2. Spying on cheating partners often helps the person feel connected to the partner who seems to be steadily moving away. It is a way of maintaining contact and having some sort of connection to this stranger who once was well known. Isn’t it like the game of hide-and-seek we used to play as children? Sometimes there, sometimes gone. At least it is a game, and a game is at least some contact, some involvement. You miss the connection and try to find some way to maintain the ties.

3. Spying on a cheating spouse may be an honest attempt to bring resolution to the relationship. You want to know the truth. You sense something does not fit. You suspect there is a breach of something. You want to know what you are up against. You are not willing to stand quietly by and wait. You are a person of action. You want some sort of movement. You want to get on with the relationship. You want to get on with your life. You know that it is difficult maintaining your sanity when there might be this huge elephant in the corner of the room that no one is talking about. You want to know the truth, face the truth, deal with the truth and be free.

4. Cheating husbands or cheating wives often, unfortunately, lead to the demise of marital relationships. If you strongly suspect this to be true for your situation you will want to protect yourself legally. If there is betrayal, lying and deception regarding a third party, other forms of deception may exist – financially or in other areas of the relationship. Having “evidence” does have impact in most court systems. Whether you need to protect yourself legally depends on the kind of affair facing you and the character of your spouse. If your spouse is someone who can’t say no, doesn’t want to say no or is acting out rage, please make sure to take protective steps.

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5. You may want to protect yourself medically if you suspect you have a cheating husband or wife. You might be concerned about sexually transmitted diseases. Your health may be at stake. And, of course, you need to know! Shame, guilt or self-absorption may be so powerful in your partner that it gets in the way of responsibly informing you of the medical dangers when another partner is sexually brought into your relationship.

6. Seeing signs of a cheating spouse often mean secrets. Secrets are hard work!Secrets are a drain. If the secret persists, its impact is felt in subtle but insidious ways. People become physically ill, sometimes seriously so. People become depressed. People start doing crazy things. Children start acting out, stop achieving, become listless or exhibit a host of other symptoms. Children, or the next generation, often carry the emotional load. You want to spy because you don’t want to live with a secret. You want to discover the truth. You want to feel the freeing power of the exposed secret and the opportunity it offers for healing, resolution, a rich relationship and a productive life.

7. Some of us like drama. Soap opera scenarios and adrenaline based lives are a hallmark of our society. We get juiced or pumped up entering into emotional relational triangles that offer intrigue. Without adrenaline, life seems boring or mundane. Perhaps an unspoken reason for an affair may be to fan the fire? Or, you may spy on your cheating spouse to keep the sense of being alive a part of your life.

If any of these reasons make any kind of sense to you then you should consider finding out more here….

Once you manage to seduce your way into a first date, you may want to look at some dating ideas to help you out. The online dating website has loads of tips to help your dating career, as well as a huge online personals section with personals from around the world.

By the way, are you looking to buy a surveillance camera to keep an eye over your house while you’re away? There are many different surveillance cameras to choose from, depending what you need the security camera system for and how much you’re willing to spend on your cameras.

Those tapes might also come in useful if your partner’s cheating at home while you’re away!

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  1. I’ve been married for 13 years with two young daughters. I recently saw changes in my husband’s behavior. He started going out more after work, constantly texting on his cell phone. When his cell would ring he would jump to get it. He kept telling me it was a co-worker and it had to do with work. I questioned him about cheating, but he denied it. I needed answers and hard proof that my gut feelings were true and I wasn’t imagining it. I ended up contacting AllState Investigations, which are private detectives and do work statewide. Well, to make a long story short, they caught him with another woman in a romantic relationship. Now I have pictures, video and a detailed report of everything that happened. To see his face drop was PRICELESS!!! It was such a good feeling to have physical evidence in my hands that he could NOT deny. Check out their websites or

  2. I hate the idea of spying on my wife but it’s the only way to know for sure. One part of me tells me I’d be better off not knowing – the other part tells me to find out.. I lose either way

  3. Josh, you’re right, it’s horrible spying but best to know then you can make an informed decision. If you want to know more about spying on your wife check out my website at How to catch a cheating wife

  4. Spying on my wife whom I feel is moving away from me emotionally has caused me a lot of pain. Not only because I feel degraded with the acts I am doing, knowing her whereabouts all the time, her calls even her emails. But I guess, I just wanted to prove that all my suspicions are wrong.And that one way or the other I am still and the only man in her life.

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