1. Paying a prostitute for (safe) sex.

2. Having sex with someone from the office at a drunken office party…

3. Having sex with someone from the office while at work

4. Having sex with a woman you just met in a bar after an argument at home

5. Having sex with a woman you just met in a bar while away from home

6. Having phone/text/cybersex with someone you will never meet

7. Having phone/text/cybersex with someone you do meet

8. Meeting someone for a drink who your partner does not like but they do not know

9. Meeting someone for a drink who your partner does not like and you lied about the meeting

10. Holding hands with someone else in public when your partner is not around

11. Oral sex on another

12. Oral sex from another

13. Thinking of someone else while having sex with your partner

14. Buying secret gifts for someone else

15. Sending secret texts to someone else

16. Telling someone of the opposite sex all your secrets and your feelings about your partner but without touching them at all

17. Kissing someone else passionately

18. Buying flowers for someone else but not telling your partner

19. Buying flowers for someone else who your partner does not like and not telling your partner

You’ll see that many of the examples involve sex but quite a few do not. It’s an interesting exercise to ask yourself what on the list you would find most hard to forgive or those that you simply couldn’t.

Hilary Clinton forgave Bill for his sexual escapades with Monica (#12) but if he’d shared his most intimate thoughts on Hilary herself (#16) with another woman? That would have really pissed Hilary off even more I think!

The answer of course is different for everybody and it’s the person who’s being cheated on, the victim, that ultimately decides what is cheating and what isn’t. What do you think? What’s forgivable and what isn’t?

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