May 18, 2011 | | Comments 0

You Asked About: Cheating Husband

Sandy asks…

cheating husband?

I’m 13 weeks pregnant with our 3rd child and I stumbled across some email that my husband had sent 2 of his exgirlfriends. They were flirting very heavily and making suggestions that they needed to meet up sometime. So, I guess its not exactly cheating but planning on it…? I don’t know what to do. His family and I have been close up to this point but now they are defending him and I have had it so I let them know what I think about them. I told my husband that I would just get an abortion so that we could get divorced but I could never really do it. I just don’t want to have to go the same road we did last time when we were separated when our youngest was a baby. We were in and out of court and hating each other the whole time. I just don’t want to put another child through that…. What should I do?
We live in Texas and its against the law to get divorced while the wife is pregnant.

Chas answers:

I know what you are feeling…a mix of hurt, anger and betrayal? I have been there…and it was very soon after I found out i was pregnant, and it wasnt the first time. I think you should do what feels right to you. Let them stand up for him, but at the end of the day, there is just NO justifying his inability to be a GOOD man and step up when his wife needs him. Tell him straight up what his options are, and remind him that HE sets the bar for how much trust you have for him, and he should think about that when he does the things he does. I think you have every right to handle it in whatever way you feel is right. He needs to know that he is dead wrong, and thinking, saying it, or planning, is just as bad as the dead. Its just as much a betrayal. I am so sorry for where you are. It just never feels the same after things like this, does it?

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